By Michael Sugarman

Women frequently complain about my misogynistic attitude, when what they’re really complaining about is when I call them out on their b.s.

If I hear one more girl complain about how they can’t meet a nice guy, I’m going to go UPS on my neighborhood Yoga studio (the US Postal Service is too slow).  Inevitably, the exact same girl who complains that she can’t meet a nice guy with a good personality and a fantastic sense of humor is dating the biggest douche on earth.  Guys, beware a woman’s rampant, insidious and completely ridiculous hypocrisy.  They have been complaining about how shallow guys are for millennia:  “All men care about are looks” and “Who cares what she looks like?  She’s beautiful on the inside?!” Guys are then forced into the unenviable position of having to defend this supposed gender-specific shallowness: “uh, well, men are, uh, you know, visually driven.  We can’t help it.”  We know its weak but we’re arguing from a position of weakness.  Its not that women are right (that’s almost never the case); it’s that they bolster their hypocritical argument from this false moral high-horse.  Guess what?  Women like pretty things; they like their guys to be hot in the exact same way that guys like hot chicks, regardless of intelligence or personality.  The reality is that attractive people date attractive people; this is a fact that’s been proven true by sociologists for decades.  But just liking attractive males is not women’s only dirty little secret.  Their hypocrisy runs deeper.  The same girl who’s complaining about how guys only care about looks is the same girl who’s not telling you that she’s got an inside guy who could have been manufactured by Massengill, he’s such a d/bag. 

What’s an “inside guy”?  Ah, womankind’s greatest little secret, known only to her inner circle of friends.  If you’re old enough to remember the Seinfeld re-runs, I won’t have to explain this to you and you can just skip down to the next paragraph.  For those of you who don’t know what I’m talking about, every girl (yes, EVERY one) has a guy that she’s sleeping with that has no potential for a relationship.  He’s usually very attractive, athletic and young, whom she uses instead of a sexual toy because he can provide that little something extra that a vibrator can’t: drama.  The inside guy does no dating “work”.  He comes over late on a weekend night and services the girl until he finds someone else, or else she does.  The “outside guy” (you, most probably) is the guy who DOES have to do the dating “work”.  He calls days in advance for a date, he brings her flowers, he makes reservations, and all of the things that traditionally he’s supposed to do to “woo” the girl.  In other words, the “outside guy” is dying to become the “inside guy”, but it will never happen.  As each successive generation has become less and less repressed, the inside guy has become less of a secret, but it’s still something that a girl will deny to her grave.  The ONLY time a girl doesn’t have an “inside guy” is when she’s in a “real” relationship, usually to a guy who is good-looking and treats her poorly. 

And this is the lesson that younger guys are learning earlier and earlier: to get a girl, you have to treat her badly.  Thus, “dating” (if you can even call it that these days) becomes a numbers game.  In “The Game” by Neil Strauss, the character “Mystery” has it all figured out.  Conventional/traditional dating is as passé as the phone booth; spending time with women in order to begin a relationship (physical or otherwise, though typically physical) is purely a numbers game whereby the most successful men run “game” on as many women as possible, knowing that on any given night, eventually at least one woman will be talked into going either out or home with them.

What does this have to do with women not saying what they mean?  In essence, it means that we’re learning to read between the lines when a woman complains that she can’t meet a good guy.  It means men are finally starting to see through the hypocrisy of women complaining that they don’t care about looks, that they just want a nice guy who makes them laugh, yet they go home to a hot guy who’s not only dumb, but treats her poorly, yet who they bang harder than a screen door in a windstorm.  But now we’re turning the tables on this attitude: since we know that girls don’t really want a nice guy, we’re not being nice anymore.  This actually kills 2 birds with one stone: not only is this new attitude more attractive to girls, its also giving them all the drama they normally only see on reality TV shows.    Fair warning: the older the guy is, the harder this attitude is to learn.  Guys used to be conditioned to treat women nicely, and in return, women would respond accordingly.  It doesn’t, and hasn’t, worked that way for decades.  Instead, it comes down to this simple rule:  Ignore what a woman says she wants, and instead give her what she won’t ask for.